What we see in here is not mathematics but relation-matics. We, Kranthi and me as one we have this relationalmatics applied. I feel real foundation of any relationship is the comfort we provide, comfort hear defined both in personal as well as family life. When you degrade one another by core means of brought up or culture it’s irreparable. The first point to be noted is respect him/her as well as family of his/her right from bottom of your heart. There could be many disparities between us as we are brought up in two entirely different family backgrounds. What one family believes spells stupidity to others, happens much often than expected. We as two in love or marriage can always compromise between ourselves but when a family intervenes in decision making the same love and empathy in understanding is necessary else it’s a mess.
A balance discussion, lets call it a counseling what makes others see what you are seeing it from your family perspective, which is more of productive discussion rather than a melodramatic emotions with tears, shouting ,yelling ,braking stuff, banging doors, starving, fasting, sleeping separately is one way to show you are disappointed or dissatisfied with the situation. We prefer always to discuss rather than show off our dissatisfaction, in this seven years of marriage there were times we disagree with families, but we as one made it very promising decisions to balance each other family egos. When we have to compromise after a day or a week or month what’s the purpose of detachment or fight lets conclude in the first minute or hour to fill the gaps in peace. This conclusion came to us way early in our relationship and we made a commitment to ourselves from relation-matics equation. We as two has to respect the two on either side at any cost and take care of our two. Maintaining balance in decision making between Two of hers (parents) , Two of mine (parents )and for Two of ours ( kids) is ultimatum as long as parents on either side are respected and kept in comfort of their adulthood.
Kranthi as a daughter right from her early ages want to help her father in sharing his work and responsibilities. She feels always sympathetic and proud for her parents commitment and efforts towards the school. She want to be a help in their effort and bring some ease to them. understanding this after a long discussions and thought process way beyond my intelligence we decided to comeback and participate in school business. After all we came here to work rather than to claim our rights in anything. As she is interested and as I promised to her dad we started work with full spirit of ours. Me, coming out of all family and financial struggles never took career in light note, I always strike it with full blow, right or wrong whatever I did till today is informed, taught or learned from Sri Venu Gopala Krishna Garu, every deed that we did in school is to enhance the school reputation but never for personal ones.
This society gives different names for staying at in-laws house. Housing around six thousand students being responsible to their parents is a huge task or incomparable to anyone’s expectations at least to me. Saving school reputation is at stake on the initial days by being responsible and handy to every student and parent is the ultimate thing I have in mind. My parents are very much dissatisfied with me for staying at school more than that staying at in-laws place, there were many hiccups many dissatisfactory words exchanged between me and my parents. I ultimately told them, it’s not this society who stood by us when we are in utmost need or they will be standing with us in future difficulties.
To me what I have learnt from morale of sasi is, school is not a commercial business we nurture kids to the best of nation as well as we are fulfilling the purpose and dream of parents and structure their future family status and reputation. Believing I have been given a huge responsibility or a platform to serve as well as prove myself I am going to do it with utmost interest while learning from my guru staying at his own place. Kranthi being calm and understanding their agony at this juncture is highly appreciative thing.she know it’s just a balancing time between career and family.
I always has huge respect for Gopala Krishna not only for his dedication but more for his selfless attitude, a very finest simple unselfish dedicated person to ethics and morals, more I work with him more I adore him. Wether it’s a discussion, argument or at times almost fighting over a decision making, he gave me an equal opportunity in listening to me and later explained the odds in detail. Truly I say from bottom of my heart staying with him is a biggest privilege or a blessings I can never ask for.
Now we want to move to a new house getting constructed at Northwest side of the campus, as the kids are growing kranthi want to spend more time with them and add some missing details like Manners, discipline, culture,Values, Ethics… . I ain’t feel so happy or proud for having a completely new house for ourselves but feel bad as I am about to miss sensible time with Gopi Garu every day either at breakfast or dinner. I still learn many things from him while I admire his stable thought process and attitude towards chaos. I ain’t writing these lines to impress any at this moment I am pouring my heart purely.
At the same time I really want people around me not to worry about my life but to mind their own with more empathy and make it brighter and better by giving more to people around them because I don’t give a damn about their perception anyways..
